Supporting children, young people and families through serious illness or bereavement
Supporting children, young people and families through serious illness or bereavement
Grief is our response to loss. When we lose something or someone we love, or are attached to, we feel grief - a partner, a parent, a child, relative, friend or a much-loved pet.
We can feel grief when we lose something of ourselves - perhaps our health, or our mobility - and sometimes we grieve over lost opportunities.
Grieving is an intensely personal experience. People may say, "I know what you're going through' because they may have had a similar loss to you, but their experience will be different to yours.
Grief doesn't observe a timetable. It takes as long as it takes, and it comes and goes.
Grief can be overwhelming and unexpected.
Our grief, over time, becomes a part of us, and a part of the life we lead.
When we grieve, we can feel very alone, even if we are surrounded by family and friends.
After the loss of a loved one, it's as if the world we knew has changed forever - and in many ways, it has.
Experiencing a flood of emotions and sensations, all at once, with no rhyme or reason, is part of it too. Sadness, anger, fear, loneliness, guilt, emptiness, tearful, out of control, irritable. These feelings are part of the grieving process. Let the feelings find their way out.
There are physical symptoms too: insomnia, loss of appetite, extreme fatigue, headaches, weight loss. These are all responses from your body to stress and grief.
Some days you may not want to get out of bed. Sometimes you might sit up all night in a chair, or lose your temper in a flash, and some of these emotional responses may shock you.
Allowing yourself the time and permission to grieve is important. Here are a few tips that may help.
