These days may feel like the longest of your life. They may also feel like a waking nightmare, one from which you hope you will soon awaken and everything will be as it was before you heard the words, "your taitamaiti (child) has cancer". 

You noticed your taitamaiti wasn't feeling well, perhaps experiencing some pain and fatigue. A visit to the GP and then a referral to a specialist in the hospital indicated something was wrong but a diagnosis of cancer was more than you believed possible. 


The truth has brought your world to a stop. The doctors are using words that are new to you and describing a disease that has always happened to someone else. The question you ask is "will my taitamaiti die?" 


You may feel shock, distress, disbelief, fear, sadness, anxiety, confusion, exhaustion, anger, worry, pain, denial, guilt and these feelings and emotions may happen one at time or all at once. 

This is normal and OK.

There are some things to remember right now:

  • The team looking after your taitamaiti  will do their very best to successfully treat the cancer and explain the benefits and side-effects. It is important not to lose hope
  • Take some time to sit down, read the information you've been given, begin the process of understanding what needs to be done 
  • Your whānau  and friends are there to love and support you. Reach out to them 

Kenzie's Gift is here to help you, your taitamaiti  and whānau  cope throughout this journey.